Life Lessons for Jumpstarting Your Career

If you haven’t made the effort recently, now is the time for a career check-in. Being thoughtful about your career over the course of the year is important to make sure you’re setting and reaching appropriate milestones. July is an excellent time to check in because it’s the start of the fiscal year for many organizations. This means budgets, goals, and priorities reset and so should you. Here are three tips for jumpstarting your career this July.

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Life Lessons from My Mother

Usually when you hear, “She got it from her mama” this refers to a certain set of “assets” but when I think about the things I got from my mama, they are way more meaningful than that. I attribute a large part of who I am and who I strive to be to witnessing my mother navigate life. I know it’s cliché but when I was growing up, my mother truly was my greatest role model.

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Life Lessons from My Father

I’m a daddy’s girl. As the oldest of seven, I never quite got enough attention as a child, but whenever I was around my father, I always saw the effort he made to make me feel extra special. It was never big gestures but a little wink here and silly face there, a tickle here and a snuggle there, that always made me feel like he had his eye on me. In our family, my mother was the disciplinarian; she was strict and wasn’t one for reasoning with me as a child, but my father was soft spoken, more easily persuaded, and poured into my inquisitive nature.

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Life Lessons from Being a Psychologist

My path to becoming a licensed psychologist wasn’t one that I chose growing up, despite being the therapist among my friends. People came to me when they needed advice or a shoulder to cry on, but I had no idea that a psychologist was even a career option because I was taught, ‘what happens in our house, stays in our house.’ My decision may seem serendipitous to some, but I truly believe that I was a called to this field.

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Life Lessons from Therapy

I remember the first time I went to therapy. I was a sophomore in college, struggling with imposter syndrome, and feeling a lack of connection with family that I’d left back home. I was confused, frustrated, and anxious. And although I didn’t know what therapy was, I knew that it was something I got for “free” as a student, and I was trying to take advantage of every resource that the university offered. So I called the counseling center, booked the appointment, and went in.

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Life Lessons for Survivors of Sexual Assault

My training at a rape and sexual abuse center lead me to commit much of my work to survivors of trauma. My passion comes from the fact that society puts much of the burden on women to protect themselves from assault (don’t drink, don’t wear revealing clothes, and don’t walk by yourself at night) rather than to train men not to take things they don’t have permission for. I know that men are victims of sexual assault. The focus of this post is the majority of sexual assaults that occur, when women are attacked by men.

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Life Lessons from Asking for Consent

In our first podcast episode of April, “Good Form,” we focused on the power and importance of talking more about sex. Not only because there are sexual innuendos all around us, every day, but because having conversations about sex has many benefits such as reducing stigma, normalizing the female perspectives on pleasure, and learning more about how sex and intimacy connect us all.

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Life Lessons from Self-Care

There has been a lot of intriguing dialogue about self-care lately, which has left me disillusioned by some messages about the true meaning of taking care of yourself. In the era of “treat yo’ self,” we often equate self-care with lavish trips, expensive spa packages, and fancy dinners.  When the reality is, self-care is more nuanced and, simultaneously, more simple than that.

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Life Lessons from Experiencing Microaggressions

If you’re a person with any marginalized identity (such as female, Black, disabled, poor, non-resident, etc.), you’ve likely experienced a microaggression. A microaggression is defined as “a statement, action, or incident regarded as an instance of indirect, subtle, or unintentional discrimination against members of a marginalized group such as a racial or ethnic minority.”

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Life Lessons from Detoxing

2018 was a pretty roller coaster year for my health, or maybe just a downward slope.  I was doing pretty well at the beginning of the year, then it pretty much just jumped off a cliff.  During that time, I was actually hospitalized and diagnosed with a condition that came as a result of poor eating, stress, and lack of exercise.  Three things that are absolutely controllable and easy to manage.

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Life Lessons from my Body

I was vomiting, light-headed, dizzy and experiencing extreme back, abdominal, and pelvic pain and had a consistent fever of about 102 degrees for three days, but I insisted that I was fine. I don’t like to claim illnesses and when it comes to getting sick, I often work under the, “if you don’t acknowledge it, it won’t be that big of a deal” model. Positive affirmations can be powerful but are not the best ways to manage increasingly serious health conditions.

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Life Lessons from Failure

One of our favorite Schoolin Life sayings is, “The only L’s we take are Libations,” but it’s not entirely true. Over the course of the last year, I’ve taken my fair share of L’s and quite of few of them weren’t served with a cocktail umbrella on top. We can gloss over with platitudes like “a setback is only a set-up for something greater,” or, “failure is the proof that you’re trying,” but the truth is that failure is hard and it hurts.

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Life Lessons from My Marriage

I was never the girl who daydreamed about getting married and starting a family. In fact, I never had any desire to get married. Frankly, I didn’t see the point in monogamy, and committing to spending the rest of my life with one person seemed...boring. I didn’t grow up in a family of married couples, nor did I see very many of them in my immediate circles, so marriage didn’t seem like something for me.

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Life Lessons from a Homebody

In my old age (yes old age, lol), I’ve really become a homebody. My home is my safe place, my sanctuary, and my solitude so I take great pride in having created a warm, welcoming and inviting space that feels like me. In an effort not to be home alone, I love sharing my space with friends and on any given Friday night, my place is filled with laughter, libations and an aggressive game of Phase 10.

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Life Lessons from Women’s Empowerment Events

Recently there has been a lot of discussion in the social media influencer space about how the “women’s empowerment” movement has brought about events filled with rhetoric and expensive products. You know the type - functions with bold “girl power” slogans where hosts promise inspiration, tools for success, and connections of a lifetime.

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Life Lessons from HBCU Homecoming

As the world sat in awe of the Queen’s Coachella performance which paid full-on homage to the HBCU Homecoming experience, I was flooded with all the feels and memories of what homecoming means to me. Fast-forward ten months later and Homecoming season has finally arrived. Ashley and I are both heading to the top HBCU Homecoming weekends!

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Life Lessons from My (lack of a) Fitness Journey

In general I’m pretty healthy, I rarely get sick, have never broken a bone or had a surgery, no chronic illnesses or allergies and in general, my doctors give me a clean bill of health at my regular checkups. But it’s not because I’m doing anything to help. My diet is all over the place, I eat out too much, have a serious carb love affair, and my (occasionally) libations are more than just an occasion.

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Life Lessons from Networking

The opportunity to “chop it up” with peers from all over the country about podcasting equipment, social media strategy, and episode layout, was golden and we soaked it all in. Networking, however, can be intimidating, and without the right approach, it can come off as disingenuous, flat, and well...boring.

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