On this week’s episode, we keep it a buck! In celebration of our 100th episode, we review our most controversial and unpopular opinions, keeping it real honest while examining the truths from our most memorable episodes. We share our opinions on money, sex, relationships, work and personal development, and as always, we tell all the truth in order to help you School Life. Thanks for listening and joining us to celebrate this amazing occasion!
On this week’s episode, we talk the who, what, and why of therapy. Therapy is more than an old white man wearing glasses on the end of his nose, asking you to relive the traumas of your childhood. And it’s not a cure-all to address every bad thing that has ever happened to you.
On this week’s episode, we talk performing for others. If we’re being honest, we’ve all played a game or two. The good girl, the strong friend, the devoted wife, the gay best friend—these roles are familiar and may be comfortable for us to step into, in order to maintain important relationships. Nothing is wrong with playing the part, per say, but it’s important not to let others typecast you based on their needs or expectations.
On this week’s episode, we talk Black swag. While we know the Black experience is no monolith, there are shared histories and practices among Black folks that make our character special. The way we walk, the way we talk, the way we grew up, and the shared pains, joys, fears, and passions that we have for ourselves and our communities, culminates in a swag that is unmatched.
On this week’s episode, we talk knowing when to go. Both in life and love, people’s first reaction after getting out of a particularly bad situation is often, “I only wish I would have left sooner.” Knowing when to walk away is a nuanced issue based on power, privilege, emotional connection, and feasibility.
On this week’s episode, we talk navigating conflict in life and love. One of the key markers of “adulting” is developing the skills to avoid or to make it through disagreements in a way that moves both parties to a respectful resolution. When you’re grown, you can’t just pout until you get your way.
On this week’s episode, we talk sex, the good kind. Eat the booty like groceries, 32 flavors of this booty-liscious bubble gum, Lick it like a lollipop, do my back like you do these records: break that shit! Listen as we talk sex, ours and yours. This episode is NSFW.
On this week’s episode, we talk speaking out and we salute women who inspire us to make ourselves heard. Speak only when spoken to. Be seen and not heard. These are the messages that were learned in childhood and that continue to challenge women.
On this week’s episode, we talk stories we tell ourselves and others about who we are and what we are to be, and determine why we’re more than just one story. Girl with a traumatic childhood, Guy with a troubled past, Girl that had her baby in high school. We all know the types of backstories that get attention because they easily frame an individual and help others categorize that person quickly.
On this week’s episode, we talk making tough choices and what it can mean to pick a side. Democrat or Republican, pro-choice or pro-life, Beyoncé’s Lemonade or Rihanna's Anti—life is full of tough choices. Often the side you choose tells a lot about your morals, values, and whether or not you actually know good music.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk dreams, and finding yourself on the winning side of success. What happens after the dreams that you’ve had for yourself, your family, or for your future, actually come true? What comes next?
On this week's episode, Ashley and Marcy talk being frugal while living fabulously. Being on a budget doesn’t have to mean eating ramen and looking homely. While you may not be able to ball out, there are practical ways to earn and save more, while spending less and maintaining a lifestyle you can look forward to every day.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk debt. Student loan, credit card, mortgage, medical expense, car note—no matter the type, if you’re like most Americans, you have debt and plenty of it, as personal debt averages near $40,000.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk the intersections between love and money. Would you date someone with significant credit card debt? What if they were in bankruptcy? Are you planning to take out a loan to cover the cost of your wedding? Should you have a joint bank account with your partner?
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk intimate, money-spending details. A quick Target run here, a must-have candle there, a Venmo request from a friend at brunch—it’s not difficult to lose track of where and how we spend our money. Listen as we share the personal details of our money diaries and estimate how we spend during any given week.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk the guidelines that define friendships. All female relationships have a girl code—rules, spoken and unspoken norms, that guide how we are expected to behave and what behaviors we should expect in return. When the rules are followed, women’s relationships with one another can exist in near-perfect harmony.
On this week’s episode, we talk the power of the side gig. Back porch hair braiders, 5-star Uber drivers, Mary Kay beauty consultants, Avon representatives—Black women are the QUEEN's of the side gig. The Pew Research Center reports that 14 percent of Black people are a part of the gig economy or free market system, using the extra income to make up for the wage gap, pay down debt, save up for a well-earned vacation or stack their kids’ college funds.
On this week’s episode Ashley and Marcy talk racism, sex and reproductive health. Black women are disproportionately affected by multiple sexual and reproductive health conditions compared with women of other races/ethnicities.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk the life-changing magic of tidying up. Piles of unopened mail, overflowing junk drawers, and shelves full of textbooks that haven’t been opened since undergrad actually bring us stress and distraction.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk failure. It feels odd to start off the year talking about failure, but acknowledging and learning from your losses are important parts of realizing your wins. Listen as we talk life, love, and libation mistakes from the past year, what we’ve learned, and why it’s important to fail fast and move on.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk managing anxiety. Your heart is racing, your palms are sweaty, knees are weak, mom’s sweaty...(shoutout to you if you get the reference.) All of a sudden you’re feeling completely distressed and while you know it's all in your head, you can’t seem to move past these overwhelming feelings of dread.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk passions, following your dreams and identifying your talents. Skill, Happiness, Opportunity, Passion, Service to Others and Value﹘these are the cornerstones of defining your purpose.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk compromise and deal breakers. Every relationship requires both parties to compromise. “Give a little, get a little,” as the saying goes. But what are the deals that you’re not willing to make?
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk getting too comfortable, taking risks, and stepping out of comfort zones. There is nothing like the familiar﹘the safe, warm place where everyone knows you, and you move through the motions without a second thought.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk managing professional work evaluations, year-end reviews, and navigating challenging feedback. As the year winds down, annual professional reviews wind up.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk about sacrifice and suffering and the strong Black women trope that we take on relationships. Listen to this real conversation about relationships, and the sacrifice and emotional labor endured while “birthing” a man.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk being natural. From hair and makeup to deodorant and lotions, products over the last 10 years have represented a constant campaign encouraging women to go natural.
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk awkward conversations. “So when are you going to give me a grandbaby?” “Looks like you’re picking up a little weight, huh?” “Where did your last boyfriend go?” “You still haven’t graduated?” Is it just us or are you also overwhelmed by people trying to engage you in the most uncomfortable of small talk?
On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk sexuality. Sexuality is defined as one’s capacity for sexual feels toward another; basically your sexuality defines who you’re attracted to sexually and romantically. These days it’s a cute quip to say “sexuality is fluid,” but what does that mean for two self-identified straight women.
On this week’s episode, Marcy and Ashley talk preconceived notions, judging a book by its cover, and fair warnings. People say that when you first meet someone, you’re not meeting them but you’re meeting their “representative.” Very few of us really put our genuine selves out there for the world to see.